How to improve your life as a thirty-year-old

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When you’re thirty, pulling thirty, or already thirty-something, you may wanna do something to finally put your life together.

Well, one thing is sure – you don’t wanna be doing what I’m doing (writing this over a can of cider in a secluded bar with “Boulevard of broken dreams” in the background). But I’ve seen a lot and I’ve done plenty so I feel authorized to drop you a few hints. Alright – jokes aside, let’s get down to the business. The harsh truth is that as teenagers and twenty-somethings we get away with a lot of foolishness. The thirties are the decade of showing responsibility. But make sure to have some fun along the way!

Take ownership of your decisions

If you consciously keep getting into a forest of red-flags – don’t close your eyes and say someone took you by the hand and led you in. You’re a grown ass person and you can say no. Don’t be ashamed to stand up for yourself, and don’t be embarrassed about your feelings.

Maybe all you need is to say no more often? Attend a class in assertiveness? It’s okay to be human. I will keep repeating it until it pops up in your dreams. You are free to make your own choices, even if you err, but they are your choices, and you’re responsible for them.

Stop eating poor quality food
(AKA Take ownership of your health)

One thing I really like about being an almost-30-year-old is that around that age the dietary focus shifts entirely from looks to health for most human beings. We grow to be less self-conscious and more accepting but our bodies inevitably start to show signs of aging… Yes, we get tired more easily, we get bloated, we experience indigestion, all that gross adult stuff we were hoping wouldn’t concern us. By the time you’re thirty, you have to stop overeating, under-eating, starving yourself, eating food items that are harmful to your body. Eat mindfully. Do your research. Learn. Check out some of my recipes (haha). Maybe see a nutritionist.

Work out like the big girl/boy that you are

I will never stress the necessity of working out as you grow older enough. It’s not just about preventing disease now and in the future – although this is the number one cause why you should never skip it. The older you get, the more muscle mass you will lose.

No matter if you’re naturally skinny or not – you should get that weight training in so that you stay mobile as long as possible. To maintain healthy joints and spine until you grow old – do yoga and stretch a couple of times per week. And for a healthy heart – get at least an hour a week of high-intensity cardio. If that seems like a lot to you, think again. It’s all about what you prioritize in your life. If it’s not your health – think about your family and loved ones who want to have you around for as long as possible and don’t blame poor genes if you’re lazy.

Learn to let go

So they broke up with you and now you feel inadequate. You keep mumbling – there is no way she/he is better than I am like a mantra. Or, your ego is hurt because you can’t connect with someone you really like. Or, you broke up with someone but part of you wants to come back and ask how they are doing and if they found someone.

Well, let me break it to you. When you’re thirty, it is about time to realize that the world does not revolve around you. Other people have entire internal worlds just like you do, and yes, other people are valuable humans too, who may be even better suited for someone you have feelings for. Let them detach. Let those people go. Was it ever really about them, if all of a sudden it became solely about you? Especially if you hurt someone – let them heal. Go away. Your ego will be sore for a while, but eventually, you’ll be fine.

Speak for yourself

The moment you realize that talking about others without them present is harmful not only to them but also to you, you will achieve the nirvana that you dream of. It is a very immature feature to talk about people behind their back and share details of their private life. If you’re guilty of it, your friends probably know it already and you’re missing out on the quality relationships you would have had if you were a trustworthy person. If you do it to manipulate others – shame on you. Even if your intentions are good – just learn to keep it to yourself. It’s very liberating.

Save some but don’t live to save

One thing you should learn by the age of thirty is balance. Saving money is a big part of adulthood, and you should definitely understand your financial goals. Just one note: make sure you don’t subordinate your life to saving money. You may want to have a house, car, and an emergency fund, or a vacation fund – you name it. But the moment you can spend money to be with your loved ones or make them smile – do it. As you grow older, you’ll realize no one lives forever.

You may want to have a house, car, and an emergency fund, or a vacation fund – you name it. But the moment you can spend money to be with your loved ones or make them smile – do it. As you grow older, you’ll realize no one lives forever.

Don’t be embarrassed to be your (thirty-year-old) self

Be proud of your feelings, your ethnicity, your sexuality, your body shape, your life choices, your competences, your nationality, physical looks, religion, beliefs. All the stuff that makes you-you is of great value and importance. Even if – and especially if – you’re constantly working on improving yourself in a variety of fields – be proud of yourself!

What piece of advice would you give someone who’s just turning thirty?

These are just a few small things that made a big difference for me – and hopefully they will help you wake up with a smile! Please let me know what three life lessons you’ve learnt that you’d like others to know by the time they turn thirty. Cheers!

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